How Women Win

We all want to be winners but often we focus on the wrong part of the win/lose scenario and then wonder why we didn’t win.  Winning in life is a personal venture.  I cannot win for you and you cannot win for someone else.  You can only win or lose for yourself.

So, why do some people often win while others seem to rarely win?  I believe some people win because they know how to focus on winning while others focus on why they aren’t winning and the competitor’s strengths rather than focusing on seeing themselves as winners.

The following tips may help you to focus on seeing yourself as a winner and consequently, YOU WILL WIN:

Visualize what it FEELS like to win.  Feel the joy and the exhilaration of being the winner!  Actually SMILE and say out loud, “I am the winner!  I WON!  I WON!” Revel in that feeling for a few minutes at least 3 times a day.

Encourage yourself by thinking about your special abilities.  Find something you are doing RIGHT in every situation and focus on that item rather than what you did wrong.

To stop thinking about something, you must replace it with something else.  If you keep saying, “I won’t think about losing.  I won’t think about losing.”  You are thinking about losing.  So, instead, say, “I am thinking about winning”.

To win, don’t think about beating another person or team but simply see yourself as the winner.

When you think about beating someone else, your mind will see the other person’s name with the title “WINNER”.

Instead, repeatedly, think about and say that you (insert your name) are the winner.   Your brain will begin to see YOU as the winner and forget that any other person or team even existed.  If you do this, eventually you WILL be the champion.

What you focus on expands in your mind.  If you focus on being the WINNER, that idea will expand in your mind.   If you focus on the other person or team and how they beat you, that idea will expand and your mind will not have room to see YOU as the winner.

Negative things expand as easily as positive things.  Be sure you are thinking POSITIVELY about yourself and that you convey those thoughts to others.


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